I have been reading posts on Oprah’s debt diet and minimum wage message boards. I have watching everyone blame everyone else. Some blame government, wealthy, companies, etc. for not helping. Others blame those who are in debt or living on minimum wages for not working hard enough to change their situation or for having too many kids before they could financially afford a family. In reading the posts, I have noticed my energy level falling towards heartbreak and hopelessness. Yet, the situation is not hopeless. However, as Einstein once said “The significant problems we face cannot be resolved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.” Thus, when we continue with the anger and blame that came from the problem, the problem does not get solved (whether it is poverty, debt, weight loss, etc). So if you think anger and blame will solve the problem (any problem you have), you will just find yourself woven tighter in the issue without a light at the end of the tunnel.

This can be seen from several different levels:

1) Anger and blame usually does not motivate action only raises defenses. Remember the last time (other than at work) where you were attacked and were told this situation was your fault, how did you react? Did you say o.k. and do something about it? Or, did you start thinking how can I defend myself against this attack? Usually blame and anger will only get blame and anger in return. Will this solve the problem? Think about how often Congress resolves its differences – not often – because no one wants to be accused of being wrong and giving in.

When there is anger and blame, there is little or no gratitude for the current conditions. If you are a parent, think about a time when you prepared a nice meal only for your child to throw the mash potatoes across the table and say “yuck, is this all there is, I want ice cream”. How did you react? Was it with love where you gave him ice cream? My guess is probably not. Now, think of situation where you may get angry at someone and become demanding. How do you think the other person will react? Now, think about how someone will react if you thanked them for what they are doing and suggesting working together to make it better. Is the outcome different?

2) Blaming others will take the focus off the issue. When you blame others, you take the focus off of what you can do to solve the issue. Blaming others will not change the situation. If you want a change, be the agent for change rather than looking towards others to change. Because there is no guarantee that others will change, you can only make your situation better by looking at changing your reaction to the situation. If you are waiting to be happy when someone else changes, you will be waiting for a long time. Life gets better when you decide to be happy now.

3) By viewing the world from lack, you will start seeing more lack. You see what you believe is so. In any one situation, you only see or sense a small fraction of the available information. Thus, you need to interpret the whole picture from a small fraction of the picture. This creates a situation where 5 people can see a situation from 5 different perspectives. Thus, when you believe there is lack, you will start finding more lack around you. Sometimes creating situations of lack where there is no or little lack.

4) Energy of lack will expand and produce more lack. I will be writing more about this later, yet the energy that you give off is a determinate of what is created in your life. If you give off a depressed energy, then lack will expand. This happens for two reasons. First, change takes energy and if there is little or no energy there, change will not occur. Second, if you met a person that is depressed, would you want to hire him for a job? Low energy will likely create situations of low energy (underemployment, unemployment, poverty, etc.). It is the law of attraction. Give off low energy and others (people and situations) with low energy are drawn towards you.

So does this mean that you can not change the situation whether it is debt or minimum wage? No. What it means is that change occurs when you:

1) Accept the situation that you are in (what you resist will persist)

2) Look for what you are grateful for now (instead of complaining about it)

3) Ask for what you want more of instead of what you want less of (because what you focus on expands)

4) Change through love instead of through anger and hate

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